Yeah folks could try on a little humility... when someone is uninterested in you, it's not a personal affront. You expressed interest and they didn't reciprocate. Big deal. When _everyone_ is uninterested in you, maybe you're not interesting. You could think about how to change that, rather than complaining that the world is judging you on the wrong metric.

Do Bay Area men really think interesting women would be irresistably drawn to their unremarkable income and mastery of basic hygiene if they moved to New York?